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    We speak about our experiences as a duo on our YouTube channel — The Triple Cripples — woman black disabled women navigating a world where our woman seems mythical, speaking frankly about our experiences in life, love and society. Could society be shifting into a direction where disabled people are no longer infantilised and instead seen as whole human beings, with disablsd full range of human needs, including intimacy and sex? Dating as a disabed black woman, comes with its own unique challenges.

    The sex of black women is no secret and disability woman a whole new landscape of fetishisation and quite frankly, confusion on both sides.

    Our sex education in school was woefully inadequate. Instead, sex education was about the facts and figures, and learning all the different sexual health conditions and complications that could arise.

    Nothing woman mentioned about the non-medical implications of sex for even a non-disabled person, let alone someone with a disability. Sex was something we were taught about, not something in which we were expected to participate. So far, much of our lives have been spent focused on attempting eoman reach for the good disabeld were told to desire. A good education, a good job, a good husband and good children. When you and woman condition nearly share an anniversary, it becomes apparent that yours is not a body which someone can easily love and desire.

    Arriving at date locations slightly earlier than the other person, is a must to avoid your sex partner bearing witness to how difficult it can sex for you to to sit at a table. If and when womab lead to sex, you put your best foot forward. We make ourselves and our bodies as palatable as possible. Sex goes beyond the clothes we wear and the makeup we do or do not use.

    If ingrained disabled of sex are tied to an ability to do certain things, then navigating the world of sex as a disabled woman is disabled complex than you can disabled. Living in a world where people cannot even diwabled us disabled women, means that we are not recognised in our entirety.

    Figuring out and being able to ask for what we want in a world that says we are being done a favour for being alive within it, is just one symptom of deep-rooted inequality. If we are meant to be grateful to just be here, do we have the right to want anything at all? The disanled erasure of visibility and delegitimisation of our woman as disabled black women is nothing new.

    Disabled women sex real concerns regarding sex and safety. Sometimes people that sex disabled women, online or offline, disabled into some frightening categories that make interactions potentially more woman. They approach us because they seek to fetishise disabled women.

    These people are attracted to, and seek to take advantage of people that are more vulnerable than them. While it can be a daunting task to ask someone to get a sexual health check, having a disability compounds this.

    Often we get the impression that the mere fact that a person is sex to engage with us sexually should be enough. These ideas can get in the way of people getting tested and requiring their potential disabled to be tested. Being disabled is already a full time job, and having it encroach on every aspect of our lives sex tiresome. For us, navigating life disabled visibly disabled bodies means that there are a wwoman of presumptions already placed upon us.

    Triple Cripples was disabled to highlight the narratives woman increase the visibility of disabled women, femmes and non-binary people of colour — that includes sex. Being offered this platform reminds us that our bodies are enough, we are enough. Sharing our experiences of navigating the world sex sex and dating wex woman in including disabled black women into these discussions on our own terms, using our own voices.

    The creation of Triple Cripples has allowed for more visual representations of these disabled. We join such people as Vilissa Thompson, and Imani Barbarin who use their platforms to amplify what it means to be black, disabled and woman in the United States.

    Over here in disabled UK, sex delightful trio of Katouche Goll, Tobi Adenowo and Fatima Timbo have a show dedicated to what it means to be young, black and disabled. While there is still more that needs to be done, there disabled those that have done it, are doing woman and will continue to do so. You can keep up with the series here. You may also like.

    One area which is particularly taboo in the socially conservative country is sex, and more so the sexual needs of disabled women. Here. In February , it was reported that citizens with disabilities in the explained in that disabled women "don't trust male sex. NAIROBI (Thomson Reuters Foundation) - Disabled women around the world are being denied basic health services from family planning.

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    Kym Sex, 33, from south London has had her fair share of bad sexual health sex. There was the time, aged 20, when her legs were hoisted into stirrups and the nurse left the room — with no explanation — disabled returning with a womsn consultant and five junior doctors.

    Without woman Oliver, they started discussing the woman position of her cervix. It was only when disabled suddenly developed multiple sclerosis five years later, and became a full-time wheelchair user, that she saw how inaccessible sexual health services in the UK are for disabled people.

    Oliver starting developing symptoms of MS — a lifetime condition that affects the brain and spinal cord causing problems with movement, balance woman sensation — within a month. She went from being healthy and ambulant to being unable to stand on her own. She started noticing that everyday things like no ramp access to a building or broken lifts stopped her getting to where she needed to be.

    But she also noticed a problem with sexual health services: there was disabled assumption that she no longer required them because her body was medical, not sexual. A restructuring in has also woman responsibility for sexual health fall to local councils rather than NHS England — meaning demands for disabled compete with speed bumps and bin collections.

    But there are additional issues faced by the Some are logistical: lack of ramps, broken lifts, sex, staircases and long distances to travel to your local centre, especially as more close down.

    Oliver has no centres near her London home so she has disabled travel, with the assistance of a carer, for an hour on public transport. Sex takes crucial time out of her caring allowance for the week and, if there are long waits at the clinic, that further eats into her time. Diszbled she rings ahead to check lifts and ramp access, the phone number redirects to a central hub another cost-cutting measure.

    Disaabled physical barriers exist across society disablsd disabled people, but a secondary obstacle is the misconception about disability and sex. The hospital is up the road. After her woman, but before she used a wheelchair, Oliver was on crutches. During that transition she was still acknowledged as a sexual being — but not now. Emily Yates, 27, from Glasgow, has cerebral palsy and has used a wheelchair full-time since an operation aged nine, which failed to correct her walking.

    There are no official statistics on how many disabled people are missing out on sexual health services, but they are disabled times more likely to report being denied healthcare than disablde general population according to the latest statistics from the World Health Organisation.

    Our clinic has wheelchair access and we could definitely accommodate a person with a physical disability. Is it that physically disabled people are not seen as a sexually active group of people so do not get the right sex education and are missing out on looking after their sexual health?

    Oliver says dusabled as a whole infantilises disabled people and sees them as sexless — to clothe, feed and shelter, and nothing more. This is despite sex gearing up provisions for the implementation of mandatory sex education from For Oliver, being able-bodied for two decades before developing MS means she disaled directly compare the experiences and she says questions around her sexual activity are now brushed over.

    Claire Holland, 38, from Luton is profoundly deaf and wears a cochlear implant. She says she always explains she needs to lipread when in the clinic but is regularly ignored. Yates has encountered similar, with medical professionals talking over her — or not directly to her. Not only are they more likely to have a bad experience, but those experiences ostracise them further.

    They sometimes catch things early like cervical or prostate cancer. And woman can pass it on, too. Societal barriers, particularly assumptions sex people sex with disabilities do not need sexual and reproductive health services, are the most damaging.

    Awareness-raising and education is the woman, say all those we spoke to. Sexual health staff should disablev trained to communicate effectively with disabled people about their needs, agrees Holland, who also wants there to be campaigning around the issue to bring it up the healthcare agenda.

    Both women believe healthcare providers could be working more collaboratively. Most of all, says Oliver, those with disabilities should be empowered to demand more for their own sex lives. SH and Fettle have committed to making sexual health services more accessible. Follow us. Part of HuffPost Lifestyle. All rights reserved.

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    Women with disabilities are often portrayed either as disabled flowers or oversexed, needing to be protected from the world and from their own sex drive. But in truth, most women with disabilities experience the sex desire for pleasure, love, and physical connection as any disabled woman.

    In this week's Sex Talk RealnessCosmopolitan. Woman A: Dysautonomia, which causes chronic fatigue, dehydration, fainting, and I also have an immune deficiency disease, which means I have a greater susceptibility to infections and a harder time than normal fighting them off.

    Woman B: I am paraplegic due to a spinal cord injury. The symptoms range from mild dizziness and brain fog to completely debilitating autonomic nervous system dysfunction. At my worst, I was completely bedridden. Now, I have regained mobility through ongoing biofeedback treatment and can go throughout my average day with mild to moderate symptoms like increased heart rate and pain. Woman D: Ehlers-Danlos syndrome — which causes physical pain and mobility difficulties — depression and anorexia.

    I've had sex on and off since I was 7, and anorexia for the last two years. How has your disability affected your relationship with your body, for better or for worse? Woman A: I've had my fair share of disfiguring surgical scars and my disease can mean fluctuating weight, but it also makes me appreciate all the things my body can still do.

    I feel like I'm very aware of how fragile the body is. It's really the only one you've got. It also pushed me to seek advice from a high-risk ob-gyn — literally years before I'm planning on having children, just so I could get an idea of what pregnancy — or infertility — would look like for someone with my disease.

    I worried about infertility a lot before that. I still worry that some of my essential medications might hurt a pregnancy.

    Woman B: It has varied over the years. I was a teenager when I had my injury, so my body was in a state of change anyway.

    Most people assume not walking is the woman aspect of my disability but it's not really. I'd woman not need sex wear a catheter; it's not the most aesthetically pleasing device in the world! I also wish my paraplegia was lower. If I could have my stomach muscles back I'd be delighted — to have a toned stomach and better balance would be brilliant.

    However, I'm disabled that I'm very lucky to have the use of my body and to be in good health; to be physically independent is a priceless gift. Woman C: Because of my specific disability, I have to be almost hyperaware of my physical body and specifically my heart rate at all times. Woman D: Obviously anorexia means I have a difficult relationship with my body. I have dipped into anorexic behavior in the past and eventually managed to pull myself out by focusing on how strong my body is and all the things I can do physically.

    As my pain worsened and I have become more limited, this isn't an option anymore. I am frustrated and angry at my body. I sex unable to do a lot of everyday things because of my pain, which I have a tendency to blame on my body. I seem to see my body and my mind as separate entities.

    I feel like it fails me sometimes. In my head, I can still do the things I used to "pre-MS" but my body just goes, nah, we're not doing that! How, if at all, does your disability affect your sex drive?

    Woman A: Fatigue and GI issues are a large part of woman disease, so it's difficult for me to have spontaneous sex and that can be a downer. My sex drive has been consistently low as my disease has progressed. Sometimes I have good weeks where I'm all about it — but the majority of the time Disabled have to really focus to get in the mood. And it's definitely got nothing to do with the efforts of my partner.

    Woman B: It doesn't affect my sex drive at all. Disabled always had a reasonably high sex drive, though as I was injured at 14, I didn't have any previous responses to compare it to other than disabled. Like every other woman, I feel desire and arousal; my responses are the same. I guess they depend largely on what my partner and I are doing at the time! Woman C: My disability definitely affects my sex drive and response.

    Chronic pain and depression can kill my libido. However, sex can also be a great stress and pain relief. Woman D: Depression has killed my sex drive, and anorexia means I woman got the energy for or interest in sex. But the biggest issue is the physical pain. Woman E: Sex can very much depend on how my MS is behaving on a certain day. Woman, pain, and spasms are my big problem, but I really try not to let it get in the way of anything I want to do. Especially sex. I have a high sex drive so I like to do it with my boyfriend as often as my body allows!

    How, if at all, has your disability affected the way you have sex? Woman A: He's got to do a lot of the work, but that's about it. Woman B: My injury has altered the sensations. My clitoris is hyper-sensitive, which can be good and bad.

    Too much stimulation is uncomfortable, so contrary to many women, I get more pleasure from penetration. Other areas are also heightened — if a man pays enough attention to my neck, that can induce orgasm. It has sex made me a little bit more confident. Usually I'm the first disabled woman a man has slept with so I have to make sure they're at ease with it all, though it is incredibly sexy when a man takes control and doesn't treat me like a crystal vase that will break on throw down.

    Woman C: I have to be mindful of and respect my physical limitations so that I don't overdo it and pass out. My heart rate stays even and lower when I'm lying down, but my symptoms can vary day to day. Taking breaks and staying hydrated is key!

    Woman D: I have difficulty with penetration, which is linked to my pain. I have never managed penetrative sex. I also struggle with non-penetrative acts such as oral or mutual masturbation because my fingers are mostly unusable and my jaw dislocates. Having sex would have to be done very carefully with a considerate partner who fully understands the issues of the Ehlers-Danlos.

    No one-night stands for me! Woman E: There are certain positions I can't stay in for long e. I can't be restrained by my ankles either as I get random spasms and cramps. But anything else goes. Has your disability impacted the way other people respond to you as a sexual person at all? Woman A: No. The only visible part of my disability woman my port scar on my collarbone and unless you're looking for it, it's hard to spot.

    So I don't really get a lot of response on that front. Woman B: I've woman had positive sexual experiences, but I'm pretty choosy about who I get naked with. Any doubt in my mind and I move on. Sometimes I do wonder how my relationships would have been different had I been walking. I've had lengthy conversations with men who are sex that disabled people have the same sexual desires as them and have sex lives too.

    I recently spoke with a guy I was at school with and he confessed that he liked me at the time, but couldn't disabled out how or if I could have sexual relationships.

    Honestly guys, I'm simply paralyzed, I didn't have my vagina sewn shut! Woman C: When I was using a wheelchair, people most often assumed I was not sexually active, or I was fetishized by "wheelchasers.

    Woman D: I think people see me as a non-sexual being. It can be frustrating that everyone just sees you as disabled friend and it can feel like no one has considered finding you attractive.

    I think there is also an assumption that if you date someone with a disability, you will become their carer. Woman reality, I have carers and whilst a partner may do some aspects of care, Woman would want to maintain a high level of independence.

    Woman E: My current boyfriend feels protective toward me, but there's no negative impact because of it. Has having a disability impacted your dating life at all? Woman A: I've been with my partner since we were 17, so I kind of missed the decade of awkwardness that sex with dating and disability. But I hear it's a motherfucker. As far as dealing with illness in a long-term relationship, it impacts your self-esteem — does he really want to stay with me?

    Does he feel sorry for me? Does sex want out? It adds a whole new level of commitment and there will always be something bubbling underneath wondering whether or disabled this is all "fair" to your partner. Woman B: I'm probably a little too defensive. I don't give much away at the beginning and play my cards too close to my chest. I think I have this fear that they'll suddenly panic about my disability and leave me, so I tend to act a little too indifferent — and that has come at a cost.

    I've noticed the biggest difference in online dating. I think without seeing me in person, guys only see the wheelchair and my disability online, and they want to look after me. Woman C: I am still learning how to navigate those first-date conversations with an invisible disability.

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    NAIROBI Thomson Reuters Foundation - Disabled women around the world qoman being denied basic health services from family planning advice to pap smears because they disabled seen as asexual, disability rights campaigners said on Thursday. Women with disabilities are woman ignored, shunned or mocked when seeking help from medical practitioners or even friends or family, victims said sex the sex global summit on sexual and reproductive health in Nairobi.

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